Color outside the lines

I was at the checkout line today and the guy in front of me was buying a stack of small coloring books. I made the comment that it’s great to see adults coloring too and a little sheepishly, he admitted that half of the books where for him and the other half for her daughter in grad school. Coloring books for grown ups have recently become a very popular option for people in need of a little “me” time. Call it meditation, call it zen, call it personal time. Some people think of it as a passing fad. And who knows? For some people it might be.

I find it lovely. One of the best pieces of advice I got when getting my Psychology license was: “Get a hobby. Your profession is a stressful one and you need a way to unwind or you’ll burn out too quickly”. So I did theatre, drawing, and writing. I may not be a practicing psychologist anymore, but the advice still stands.

You need to find a way to unwind. For some people it’s retail therapy. For some people it’s running a marathon. For some people it’s grabbing a handful of colored pencils or crayons and coloring a page.

These days, my ‘unwind’ moments are rare and far between, but for the most part, I try to write a little, draw a little and when time allows, I bake bread.

Do I do coloring books? I have one and haven’t had a chance to open it yet. Overall, although I’ve done it in the past, it’s rare for me to color what I draw. To me, the catharsis happens in the laying of the line work. I started using pencil a lot in past years, but ink will always be my favorite. Good ol’ fashioned ballpoint pens. I know there’s erasable pens in the market, but I really enjoy those that you can’t erase. I like drawing a couple of lines and knowing that I can’t erase it. I either have to make it work or turn it into something else. I start out with a basic shape (which became a game at some of my workplaces. Yelling accross a room: “I need a shape!” “Square!” “Thanks!”), then just keep adding lines and shapes at random. The resulting doodle can be big, small, pretty, ugly, and usually confusing to anyone but me. I’ve lost the practice of it, and definitely need to get back to it and unwind.
What do you do to relax?


Moving mountains

I love music.

Growing up, my Mom played piano a lot. Both my parents love a variety of music, so there was always something playing in the background. We three kids took piano lessons, but with short, stubby fingers and the attention span of ….*squirrel!*……where was I again? Ah yes, I didn’t move forward too well into becoming a musician myself. Theatre turned out to be more my thing.

But the love of music runs deep, even if I can’t play much of it. I started out making mix tapes of songs I liked – remember sitting by the radio with a tape waiting to record the song you’d been waiting for for ages, and not caring that there was a brief second of a radio commercial in your recording, because gosh darn it, you had finally recorded that song?!….those were the good days -. Anyway, I moved from mix tapes, to mix cds and now playlists.

Although I have playlists of songs with actual words, it’s the instrumentals that have always drawn me in, wether classical, modern, movie soundtracks, etc. I put them together so I can have a background sound to help me concentrate without having to bother trying to listen to, nor follow along lyrics. I have a growing playlist that I use when I write stories, some just aimed at attaining that concentration and some aimed at pacing specific scenes.

I was going to try my hand at NaNoWriMo again this year, but my brain had too many blips and I didn’t go beyond a briefly written idea.

This song by Two Steps from Hell has been lingering around my playlist for a while now. Every time I hear it, I want to write something. Maybe I don’t need to make the 50K. Maybe I just need to get this song out of my head and onto paper.

What sounds make you want to write?

From the Archives – “Life in cooking”

I wrote this about ten years ago, while still single. It’s funny, reading it now, that I pondered children at the end. And now I have a bouncing Energizer Baby. 

I can’t exactly remember when I became interested in cooking. In one of her books, Stephanie Pearl-Mcphee says that she knit constantly around her daughters and one day they just picked up needles and gave it a try.

I think something like that must’ve happened while I was growing up. Cooking was a very important part of my family. Not to mention that in some cases, you were expected to cook, no choice about it. But more on that later.

There’s a very cute picture of me as a little girl sitting on the kitchen counter, in a cute little dress, stirring something in a bowl with a spoon. My guess….cookie dough. Or something yummy like that. I will be forever grateful for the fact that my mother got me involved in her daily cooking. I never had any fancy formal training for the kitchen. I just watched, practiced and learned.

One of the earliest memories of cooking I have comes from my Abuelita Tere, my paternal grandmother. Mom dropped me and big bro at her house so she could go work and we spent the morning being children, running around like crazy and all. I think I was around 7. At some point, Abuelita asked me to slice up some olives for her, as she started her afternoon cooking. She handed me a jar of olives and a sharp knife. No explanation whatsoever, just the need to have the olives sliced. I nicked myself so many times while slicing them that I lost count. Abuelita never took the knife away from me, just told me to “quit playing” and get the job done. Over the years, she would have other chores for me that involved me sticking my hands into near-boiling water, using sharp knives, etc. I’m sure that many people would consider that cruel nowadays. Personally, I loved it. Yeah, I might have complained, but man, those were good days.

She even taught me to bake bread. I can still picture her, measuring the ingredients – always by weight – the care with which she did everything. Her hands kneading the dough. To this day, I love the feel of my hands after I’m done kneading the dough. They remind me of her hands. The smell of bread rising. Of bread baking. That first bite into bread fresh out of the oven. I think anyone who was around her when she kneaded her dough can remember the sound. She also had a special wooden board she kneaded her dough on – made by my Abuelito -. That board is now cured with decades of oil. I love it.

As time went by, my mother started trusting me with more things around the kitchen. I went from mixing things in bowls, to decorating food, to preparing salads, to taking on the task of making the daily meal. As a teenage girl, it was a matter of infinite pride, being asked to make a meal to feed the whole family. I still love cooking with my mother. No matter how far away we are, or how many years have gone by. There’s nothing like being in the kitchen with my mother. Moving around, preparing ingredients, seasonings, the sounds and smells, the conversation, the bond between mother and daughter.

It is happening a lot that people don’t allow their children into the kitchen because “it’s dangerous”. I think this is sad.

Yes…..the kitchen can be dangerous. Heck, I once sliced the very tip of my left index finger off. It was left hanging and after the shock of it, I just flipped it back, waited until the bleeding stopped, iced it and bandaged it. I got a lime popsicle and sat in the kitchen, watching my mother cook. I was back in the kitchen the next day – would’ve been back the same day, but any pressure on my finger would re-open the wound).

ANYWAY…..yes. It can be dangerous. But dang it…….IT’S SO MUCH FUN. You’ll get your knicks, burns, etc. You’ll learn from your mistakes and keep at it. You’ll burn food, cook things that not even the family dog would eat, and learn from that as well. The art of cooking should not be lost. Not just because of how amazing it is to create something from scratch – probably the same reason I like knitting and crocheting -, but also for the pride of knowing you’ve created something to feed yourself and your loved ones. For the joy of knowing that what you’re putting into your body is nourishing and good.

It can also result in some very interesting moments when you’re teaching others to cook. I cook by intuition most of the time. I got my brother frustrated when he asked me how much salt to put in the picadillo and I just poured some in my hand and said “this much”.

I’ll never be a professional cook. I wouldn’t know the difference between haute cuisine ingredients even if they stared me in the eye and introduced themselves. But I like to think that I can cook well enough to feed my loved ones.

Someday, I’ll have children. And they’ll be more than welcome into the kitchen. The day my children leave home, they will receive a copy of the family recipes. By gosh, they’ll know how to feed themselves, even if all they have for a stove is a toaster oven or a microwave.